Smiling at the peach blossom fan, peach blossoms smile at the spring breeze

This is indeed worth celebrating, there are too many love and affection in the world, too much wishful thinking, too many crazy men and women.

Of course, not all of them sent blessings, such as many coveted female artists who secretly scolded the good cabbage for making the pig arch, and countless Dong Xiaowan's fans were sad for a while.

In addition, Dong Xiaowan got her wish and also gave an encouragement to countless female artists with dreams, if the heart is in a dream, as long as the hoe is swung well, there is no wall foot that cannot be dug down.

According to the fairy tale, marriage is the end, "a happy and happy life from now on", and the story should also end. In real life, getting married and being happy are two different things, just the beginning of a new life.

Xiaowan can't guarantee a happy life in the future, because she is a "concubine" when she marries into a fake family, that is, there are three layers of direct leaders who determine her life happiness index.

The first level of leadership is Mao's parents, in this evil old society where good and filial piety come first, parents have absolute authority at home, from the word "filial piety" can be seen, filial piety is obedience, filial piety must be obedient, children must be unprincipled and absolute obedience to their parents, talking back to their parents is chaotic, for the sake of his wife and daughter and violating the will of his parents is to be spurned by the whole society and condemned by public opinion, and the current fate of daughter-in-law who can't enter her in-laws is often miserable, such as Liu Lanzhi "took off her skirt and silk shoes, and went to Qingchi", such as Tang Wan" The dream has been broken for forty years, and there is still a trace of it", of course, there are also those who love their daughters-in-law, and there are only a few who love their daughters-in-law like Wang Anshi, Su Shi, and Li Bai.

The second level of leadership is to venture into frontiers. Mao Bijiang is Xiao Wan's absolute leadership, which is clearly stipulated in the Three Platforms and Five Constants, which is doomed to the inequality of the status of the two in both law and ethics. Not to mention Dong Xiaowan, even his wife is a lot lower than Mao Bijiang. He spent all his time outside the country having an ambiguous relationship with countless lesbians, and married an artist back home under the watchful eye of the public, without caring about the face and feelings of his wife who gave birth to three children. This is still the case for the wife, not to mention the need for respect for a junior, who may like the new and hate the old at any time, and beat Xiao Wan back to its original form, and if the life really can't go on, he will sell Xiao Wan, and if he meets a good friend, he can also transfer Xiao Wan to him.

The third level of leadership is the immature wife. As mentioned earlier, the status of a concubine is a slave, which is equivalent to the wife's deputy, which determines the wife's absolute leadership over the concubine. Deputy work is not easy to do, and those with leadership experience can understand it. What's more, the main role of the concubine is played at night, and this is what makes the wife angry the most. If a man is dazzled outside, he can't be bothered, if he accompanies the raccoon spirit in the bed next to him, how can he not make people jealous, vinegar and waves, and he will naturally swallow his anger when he speaks well, and he will inevitably use the concubine as a punching bag when he encounters a difficult one.

The law gives these three layers of leadership absolute authority, each layer is an insurmountable mountain, and each layer can make the concubine suffer from a catastrophe, and she doesn't know how to die.

In addition to facing three levels of leadership, Xiao Wan also has to prevent the involution of colleagues. Mao Bijiang's love is overflowing and likes to provoke women, which gives Xiao Wan a lot of strong rivals, even if he doesn't marry home, he still has a strong competitiveness, concubines are not as good as prostitutes, the aforementioned Wang Jie, Li Shi Niang and Chen Yuanyuan, who will always live in Mao's heart, these heavyweights have their own appointments, Li Shi Niang's electric eyes, Chen Yuanyuan's electric music can not be surpassed, these people are Xiao Wan's natural enemies, always reminding Xiao Wan to live cautiously, and to be a man with his tail between his legs.

The environment is harsh and the competition is fierce, why does Xiaowan gain a foothold in this home?

Xiao Wan's biggest weapon used to be her appearance. As an artist, the appearance is "1", the figure, talent, conduct, and personality are only the "0" at the back, and the others are basically wasted without appearance. Dong Xiaowan can get his hands on Mao Bijiang in the fierce competition, and his appearance is naturally top-grade. But in family life, appearance is no longer the decisive condition, it is human nature to like the new and hate the old, no matter how beautiful the appearance is, it will taste the same as chewing wax after aesthetic fatigue, not to mention that the women around Mao Bijiang have their own selling points, and it is obviously not enough to gain a firm foothold in the Mao family with their appearance.

Xiao Wan's other big killer weapon is talent. But talent plays a small role in family life, and the source of these talents is the art school, the more amazing the talent, the more obvious the identity of the artist, and the art body is a stain that Xiao Wan can't erase, and it is also an eternal thorn in the heart of Mao Bijiang. Therefore, Xiao Wan's talent is not only not a plus, but a weakness.

The previous weapons are invalid, and the advantages have turned into unfavorable factors, Xiao Wan must change her concept, change her thinking, and transform and develop as soon as possible. This is a normal phenomenon, and the development of any affairs will encounter bottlenecks at a certain stage, and transformation and development is the only way.

As soon as the thought turned, the gold was ten thousand taels, the thought became stiff, and the abyss was ten thousand feet.

Transformation first needs scientific positioning, that is, knowing what you are, people are valuable in self-knowledge, and things are important in moderation.

Xiao Wan is very smart about this, the bloody reality makes her precocious, and the long-term low-level life has made her know what she has changed, compared to her appearance, her background, her family, her heirs, and her working years, she has no advantage, and she has no qualifications to compete with her colleagues. Therefore, Xiao Wan didn't think about what to fight for, what to suppress, who to squeeze out, and she didn't need to think about the trickery and jealousy in the palace drama, who you love to rob and who to rob, I can honestly rank last.

After finding the correct positioning, Xiaowan needs to determine the direction of transformation as soon as possible.

There are many types of women, career-oriented, family-oriented, coquettish, clean, cold-hearted, empathetic, enthusiastic and unrestrained, gentle and virtuous, bird-like type, etc.

The needs of customers are different, artists can't pick customers, they must change their types and provide corresponding services according to the needs of customers, and mastering these classifications and their characteristics is a compulsory course for artists.

As a boutique among artists, Xiao Wan is an expert in this area, with a clear understanding of every genre, a solid grasp of every course, and can even be a representative. For example, in the interaction with Mao Bijiang, Xiao Wan used the cold type to attract Mao Bijiang to come, deepened the impression with the enthusiastic and unrestrained type, used the infatuation and bitter love type to impress Mao Bijiang, and used the empathetic type to win the recognition of Mrs. Mao.

Which type can quickly establish and consolidate its position in the impostor? Xiao Wan made a scientific study and judgment of the situation in which she was found, and analyzed and eliminated each type one by one. The knowledge and etiquette type is not suitable, she has a natural defect in this point, and she can't compare to the main lady of the Mao family; the cold type is not good, this type can only deal with men, and it is used to deal with other women in the family is to find a pump; the vase type is not good, there are too many at home; the fox type is not good for the enthusiastic and gentle type, the competition is too fierce, and the vixens outside are all in this profession。。。。。。

After some in-depth thinking, Xiao Wan decided to choose a type that she had never tried before: the family type.

This is a difficult decision, and it is destined for Xiaowan to embark on a thorny road, because the essence of the family type is to pay, a bit like spring silkworms, candles, gardeners, retrograde and excellent cadres, give full play to the spirit of "three cows" and sacrifice themselves to fulfill others

Sacrifice is not terrible, life in the world is not for yourself, love what I love without regrets, sacrifice for the person you love is not pain but happiness. But sacrifice needs to be voluntary, and it is not happiness to be forced to sacrifice as a slave or to be cut like a fool. Sacrifice also needs recognition and reward, washing my hands and making soup naturally thinking that someone will ask me about the porridge can be warm, and when the moon is in the west chamber, I naturally think that someone will set up a dusk for me.

Not everyone's efforts can be rewarded, so there is affection but is ruthlessly annoyed, there is a bitter heart to return to the twilight, and there is a poor wind and moon debts that are difficult to repay.

Can Xiao Wan's efforts be rewarded? She believes that she can, because she believes in her own strength, when she was an artist, she was able to be famous and crush countless peers, and as a housewife, she could naturally break out of a world of her own.

There is another reason why Xiaowan chooses the family type: there is little competitive pressure. There are not many people who are willing to choose this type because they do not want to suffer that sin.

Xiao Wan is not afraid of hardship, she can get out of her lowly status and marry someone she likes, no matter how bitter it is, it is sweet. She immediately adjusted her lofty mentality, gave up her once glorious artistic career, completely put down the shelf and clamped her tail to be a man, conscientiously performed her duties as a concubine, carefully took care of the whole family to eat, drink and Lazar, worked hard and conscientiously, based on her post to do her job well, as a good housekeeper, cook, scholar and servant, and perfectly fulfilled the duties of a servant foreman.

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prodigal son does not change his money, and the prodigal girl looks back. There is such a record of the family-oriented Xiaowan in history: Mao Bijiang and his parents sat and ate together with the children in the main house, and Dong Xiaowan bent over and waited. Everyone politely asked her to sit down and eat together, Dong Xiaowan sat down, but kept standing up, greeting everyone, and after a few minutes, she simply stood up and stood aside to watch everyone eat.

Seeing this, my feeling of mountain admiration came spontaneously. Dong Xiaowan is a smash hit first-line artist, in order to be able to put down his grievances and beg to be all slaves and maids, what face do we poor people have to ask for equality and dignity. So far, I also understand why Xiao Wan can succeed, dancing in the clouds when she is engaged in her career, and muddy when she is engaged in her family, she is really a ruthless person! With this ruthlessness, there is nothing that cannot be done.

Sure enough, Xiao Wan's stealing life was recognized by her family, and the family was happy. Think about it, an opponent who is strong enough to crush you into scum is not obedient to you, does not fight or grab, and is willing to be your grandson, what else will you care about her.

Xiao Wan's approach is helpless and submissive on the surface, but in fact it is very philosophical. The avenue has no skill, seeking the lack of can be rounded, forbearance is fighting, retreating is advancing, not fighting is also a kind of fighting, so that a foot can enter a zhang. With great wisdom, Xiao Wan perfectly realized the strategic transfer from an artist to a concubine.

Xiao Wan is not satisfied with this, she thinks that swallowing her anger and holding her tail and being a man will not allow her to fully stand on her feet, because as long as she is willing, anyone can do it without fighting or grabbing a good temper, even a dog can do it, and if you want to be different in the concubine room, you must have a unique skill. This also talks about Xiaowan's other ability in addition to her strong adaptability: strong learning ability and innovation ability.

Xiao Wan uses these two skills in her daily life. She found that her family loved sugar, but the sugar was too sweet and greasy, and the fragrance was insufficient, which could easily cause obesity, dental caries, skin disease and diabetes. Ordinary people will persuade their families to eat less when they encounter this situation, but Xiao Wan has changed the blockage to sparseness, she has improved the sugar, added a variety of coarse grains and dried fruits, so that it is not only fragrant and sweet, but also has the function of removing dampness and preventing heatstroke, absorbing oil and strengthening the spleen. This sugar is called "Dong Sugar" by later generations.

After a while, Xiao Wan found that everyone in the family loved to eat pork belly, but eating meat was too greasy and easy to cause hyperlipidemia and fatty liver arteriosclerosis, so she pondered the meat to remove the oil and remove the smell, first roasted and then cooked, boiled and then fried, fried and steamed, so that the meat color and fragrance are good, not only fat but not greasy, but also beautiful skin and beauty. This meat was called "Dong meat" by later generations.

With these two inventions, Xiao Wan became one of the "Top Ten Famous Chefs of Ancient China".

In addition, Xiaowan also devoted herself to the study of female workers, determined to become a skilled person, reform the embroidery skills, and has been commended and rewarded by the industry for many times, and was awarded the title of "God of Needles" by the world.

To achieve such a high level of achievement in daily life, a person's ability to serve the people and the mentality of serving the people are indispensable, especially the passion to serve the people. So everyone praised Xiaowan for being very happy, and her happy life is the driving force and source of innovation.

An old stalk: Someone asks me what happiness is? Happiness is suffering.