A leisurely life that begins with the possession of a game character

Chapter 632 Educational Issues
"Kid, do you have a lot of question marks..."

Zhang Lan had just turned on the music, and his son Zhang Lekang, who was sitting next to him, became unhappy after listening to a few words.

"Dad, I didn't disobey my mother. It was her who kept her word. She clearly agreed to accompany my sister and me to school today."

Following his son's retort, Zhang Lan saw that his daughter on the side also wanted to complain, and said quickly: "It turns out that mom has promised you before. This is indeed mom's fault. Let's talk to mom about the truth after we go back today, okay? good."

Educating children is a hard and tiring job. After Zhang Lan tried twice, he gave up and explained today's events to his two children.

In the eyes of the children, the current problem is that Qin Yongjun went back on his promise and then went back on his word. Leaving aside the daughter's side, the son's protest is that I don't go to school.

This kind of behavior of not going to school to protest against the parents' words shows that there is something wrong with the education of Zhang Lan's two children.

Only when there is no effective communication for a long time, the child's first reaction when facing a problem is to use his or her own behavior to threaten.

Such behavior shows that children have no confidence in normal communication with their parents, which is a very serious matter.

This is why Zhang Lan chose to take her children to school in the first place. She wanted to fulfill the children's requests first, and then consider education.

Otherwise, if you don't go to school to educate your children, the final consequence will be that it will be difficult to get real feedback the next time you encounter the same thing.

If the two children are developing as well as their peers, they have done something wrong, and they will be corrected after timely correction.

The problem now is that both children are very smart, and the education method at this time cannot treat them as children.

For children, it is very important for parents to teach by words and deeds in the early stage. Some bad impressions should be tried not to be exposed in front of the children.

Anyone who has spent time in a kindergarten knows that you can tell what a child's family education is like by looking at his appearance.

Children know how to read eyes best, even more carefully than adults.

This is the first time for Zhang Lan to come to the parent-child class. In the previous school activities, Qin Yongjun came to take the children to participate. Most of the time, Zhang Lan was a hands-off shopkeeper.

But what is a little surprising is that Zhang Lan always thought that there should be more matriarchs in such parenting classes, but what Zhang Lan saw today is that there is not much difference between the two.

During the game, Zhang Lan asked the parents beside her while chatting, and realized that most children in the kindergarten rarely have parents who just take care of their children at home. When this happens, whoever is free usually comes over.

Zhang Lan's twin children made the other parent very envious, and they never stopped praising them from the beginning to the end.Zhang Lan also praised his child a few times. How should I put it, the child of the eldest brother who was chatting with Zhang Lan behaved very much like a leader.In a man's words, he learned everything from his grandfather. The two families are just like this, and the grandfather is not used to it.

Speaking of being spoiled by children, the man sighed, shook his head and said: "Nowadays, all the children who act evil are their parents. It would be great if you relax a little. The elders on both sides of me often talk about the young couple. Two more kids.”

Zhang Lan doesn't have any feelings about this. He has three children, the third one was just born, and Qin Yongjun didn't say whether he would have any more children in the future.As for pampering children, Zhang Lan herself is much more pampered than Qin Yongjun, and her son is a little better. As long as her daughter speaks to Zhang Lan, Zhang Lan will not give her any discounts as long as she can do it.

Raising children is something that requires long-term investment, and this 3-minute heat is the most important thing.Especially in the four to five years between when a child first starts talking and when he or she is seven or eight years old, basically whatever outlook on life and values ​​you establish for your child in these few years will be like this for the rest of his life.

As for subsequent adolescence, rebellion, etc., it all depends on what kind of foundation has been laid for the child in the past four or five years.

For those who are rebellious in adolescence and fight against their parents, if you know about their childhood at this time, you will know that the influence they received in childhood will have a lifelong impact.

There are also prodigal sons who never change their fortunes and work hard to change their life trajectory as adults. The trajectory can be found in their childhood lives.

After the teachers and children finished doing exercises and the school and parent representatives finished speaking about the activities, the morning parent-child activity class was over.After having lunch together for the last time, Zhang Lan left the school.

As soon as she left school, Zhang Lan called Qin Yongjun and asked her to arrange her time and come back early in the afternoon to pick up the two children from school.

Speaking of what happened this morning, Qin Yongjun also realized his problem, or maybe Lu Qian told her about it afterward.As for Zhang Lan's proposal, Qin Yongjun is at home now and will wait until Zhang Lan goes back to talk about it, just in time to talk about the future education of her children.

Zhang Lan and Qin Yongjun were sitting together on the sofa in the living room. Lu Qian and another child education expert who was said to be temporarily invited by Qin Yongjun were giving lectures to the two of them.

The main thing she talked about was the education of her children. As for what happened today, Lu Qian thought that it happened that Zhang Lan came home in time and it did not have a deeper impact.

But in the next time, she suggested that Qin Yongjun should pick up and drop off the children for a while to develop a relationship with them.

The main problem of Qin Yongjun and Zhang Lan is that they are often away from home and cannot always accompany their children.

The current situation is fine, but if it is not corrected in time, after a long time, due to the existence of Lu Qian and others, the person the child trusts first may change his partner in the future.

The world of children is very simple. Whoever stays with them longer and can satisfy their emotional value is the closest to them.

Zhang Lan is a little better. The image of a father is generally not easy to change in the hearts of children, but the mother's perspective is different.

What Lu Qian and another education expert said was mainly aimed at Qin Yongjun. Due to national conditions, if Zhang Lan's children grow up in the current environment, the most likely thing is to fall out with Qin Yongjun first.

Because Qin Yongjun's role has been absent since the beginning of taking care of children.The existence of nanny and confinement nanny, if Qin Yongjun cannot make changes in time, the consequence will be that the children's feelings for their mother will also change when they have the deepest relationship with Zhang Lan.

Whether it is a strict father and a loving mother, or a strict mother and a loving father.The stern character will naturally suffer the most incomprehension from the children in the early stages.If the role of kindness is also absent at this time, problems will arise in the child's psychological growth.

Hearing this, Qin Yongjun turned to Zhang Lan and said, "What do you think?"

(End of this chapter)