I watched Er Chuang’s short video, and everything went numb!

On the giant screen in the sky.

The video is refreshed.

A new video appears.

[Is the phenomenon of young people collectively "breaking off relatives" a great rebellion? Why don't people like to visit relatives now? 】

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Seeing this line of big words, many ancient people from all dynasties were instantly shocked.

"Break off relatives?"

"Does it mean to sever the relationship between relatives?"

The ancients combined the second half of the sentence and had a guess in their hearts.

Then.

They felt it was incredible:

"Why do young people in later generations collectively break off relatives?"

As ancient people who paid great attention to clan blood relations and family relations, they felt that this situation was too strange.

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The plane of Taizu of the Great Ming Dynasty.

Zhu Yuanzhang frowned.

He was a man who valued family affection very much. He gave many honors to his family members, both during their lifetime and after their death.

Therefore, he could not understand the phenomenon of "breaking off relatives" in later generations.

So he continued to stare at the giant screen in the sky, trying to figure out what was going on?

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[When was the last time you visited relatives? ]

[This question is probably going to make many friends scratch their heads. They need to recall carefully to remember this very distant thing. ]

[What about the last time you had a gathering with relatives? The last time you chatted with cousins? When was that? It may also be a long time ago. ]

[This is actually a microcosm of contemporary social culture. 】

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Many ancient people in all dynasties were increasingly shocked and puzzled:

"Have family relationships in later generations become so indifferent?"

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[According to scholars' statistics, 63% of minors basically do not contact their relatives if there is nothing wrong at home. 】

[Among young people aged 18 to 25, only 22.7% often or frequently contact their relatives. 】

[For those aged 26 to 30, this proportion is 28.8%. 】

[In contrast, about 85% of middle-aged people aged 40 to 50 often or frequently contact their relatives. 】

[That is to say, in the eyes of young people, the importance of blood ties is rapidly decreasing. 】

[They are no longer as keen on contacting and moving around in the extended family as their elders, nor are they willing to pay for maintaining family relationships, but directly choose to cut off contact. 】

[Scholars simply call this phenomenon: young people collectively cut off their relatives. 】

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The plane of Emperor Taizong of the Tang Dynasty.

Li Shimin looked at the data comparison on the giant screen in the sky, his eyes full of thought.

He thought this phenomenon was very unusual.

If only a few young people behaved like this, then it might be because these young people were cold-blooded and indifferent by nature.

But nearly 80% of young people don't have much contact with their relativesContact, this is definitely not a personal reason, but there must be some common social reasons.

"Why is it so?"

Li Shimin was very curious.

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[According to Internet conventions, experts should soon come out to lament that "the world is going downhill" and criticize young people for being indifferent to family affection and having no family concept. 】

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Don't say it.

Among the many ancient people from all dynasties who were watching the video in front of the high-altitude giant screen at this time, there are still many people who think so.

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[But, is it so simple? 】

[Why not stand from the perspective of young people and see what happened here? 】

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The eyes of many ancient people from all dynasties looking at the high-altitude giant screen became more focused.

This topic has successfully attracted their attention and stimulated their interest in watching.

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[The ideal state of "visiting relatives" is that you buy wine and I buy food, everyone gathers together, chats about life, and complains about trivial matters together, so that you can gain comfort and encouragement. ]

[It would be even better if there were some Buffett-style family investment. ]

[When Buffett started his business, two-thirds of the money was invested by his aunt, sister, and father-in-law, completely out of trust in him. Of course, he also gained success in the end and won with his family. ]

[But reality is sometimes far from the ideal, and the cost and benefit are not proportional. ]

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"Cost and benefit?"

Many ancient people in the dynasties were a little confused.

They felt that "visiting relatives" was not doing business, so how could it be related to cost and benefit?

In their opinion, if relatives have to calculate so clearly, what kind of family are they?

"People in later generations are too calculative."

Some ancient people shook their heads.

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[Not to mention the time it takes to get together, you also have to make up some auspicious words to greet relatives, buy some gifts for elders, and give some red envelopes to children. These are all real costs. ]

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"Isn't this what we should do~?"

Many ancient people in all dynasties thought so in their hearts.

In ancient China, the process of visiting relatives was similar, and these things were also done by ancient people when visiting relatives.

They didn't think there was anything wrong with doing so.

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[However, the happiness that young people can gain from "visiting relatives" is not good enough. ]

[It is impossible to expect your aunts and uncles to understand the idols you are chasing or the games you play. 】

[So, the content of the chat is likely to fall into practical topics: Have you found a partner? Have you been promoted and received a salary increase? Have you bought a house or a car? 】

[Relatives think that they are asking these questions to show their concern for the younger generation, but in fact they are stepping into a minefield, and the slightest mistake will lead to embarrassment. 】

[For example, if you say that your salary is too low, your relatives will criticize youWithout working hard, they will seriously give you directions, asking you to take the civil service exam or go abroad to work. 】

[As soon as you leave, they will teach their children: "Don't learn from so-and-so, you have no future." 】

[If you say something high, your relatives' eyes will light up immediately, and they will praise you crazily, and ask you to tell them about your experience in getting rich and share your way to get rich, and then they will strongly ask you to find a job for their children. 】

[This is all praised to the sky, you can't agree or refuse. 】

The barrage flew out:

"Too real."

"That's right, it's my real experience."

"Every year during the Chinese New Year, I have to experience it once. It's just embarrassing to open the door to embarrassment-too embarrassing."

"To be honest, I am really annoyed by these things, but I can't avoid them every year during the Chinese New Year. I don't want to go back during the Chinese New Year in the future."

"..."

Some ancient people from all dynasties looked at the giant screen in the sky and expressed their deep sympathy.

Although the specific content is different, similar situations have also happened to them.

The only difference is that the rhetoric has become: Have you got married? Have you passed the imperial examination? Have you been promoted? ... and so on.

Faced with these things, these ancient people actually find it quite annoying.

So at this moment, they understand the thoughts of these later people.

Of course.

It is not to understand the idea of ​​"breaking off kinship", but to understand the idea that people in later generations find annoying.

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[Similar embarrassment can also occur between peers. ]

[It is possible that you take a bus back to your hometown, and then find that your cousins' luxury cars are parked in a row at the gate of the yard. ]

[At the dinner table, they still have to be very "modest" and say that you are still promising, and you can make a living in a big city, and we will make a little money. After saying that, they gently slap the car keys on the table, and then pretend to roll up their sleeves casually, revealing a shiny green water ghost. ]

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This description gave many ancient people in all dynasties a strong sense of déjà vu.

After all, the trend of comparing with each other among relatives also existed in ancient times.

It's just that the items used to show off are different.

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[Of course, sometimes the roles will be reversed. 】

[You received a little more in year-end bonus, and happily gave a big red envelope to your grandfather. As a result, your cousins ​​only gave the younger one. They will inevitably feel uncomfortable, and may even say something sarcastic: Brother is much better than us, and treats grandfather the best. 】

[If the party is at your home, in the blink of an eye, your younger brother and sister may have already used your limited edition lipstick to draw, or dismantled your collection of Gundam into plastic pieces. 】

[Should I ask relatives for compensation or swallow my anger? 】

[Many friends should have experienced similar embarrassing experiences. 】

[Don’t even think about getting rich like Buffett, even the good mood of the holiday is ruined. 】

[Over time, you will feel that "visiting relatives" is not a good thing.The efforts and gains of "relatives" are not proportional, and there is no motivation to maintain the family ties.】

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"This... is not the case, right? ”

Many ancient people in all dynasties felt that although the situations described above would indeed make people feel uncomfortable.

But it was a bit too much to cut off contact with relatives because of this.

They felt that those things were not a big deal after all, just some small problems. (To read the violent novels, go to Feilu Novel Network!)

And no matter what, relatives are relatives after all, blood is thicker than water, and broken bones are connected with tendons.

How can we "cut off kinship" because of this?

The thoughts of these ancient people are not surprising.

After all, ancient China was the most particular about clan blood relations.

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[Then, the remaining question is: Are young people too hypocritical, or has the nature of family affection changed?]

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The plane of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty.

Liu Che's next The interest in the video content has increased.

As a cold-blooded political power creature, he naturally does not look at "family affection" and other feelings like ordinary people, but everything serves power and is measured from the perspective of interests.

He is a little curious about what this so-called "nature of family affection" is?

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[From a sociological perspective, the relationship between people can be summarized into several "ties". ]

[Relationships generated by genetic inheritance: blood ties. ]

[Relationships generated by marriage: marriage ties. ]

[Relationships of living in the same place for a long time: geographical ties. ]

[Relationships of doing a certain job together: karma ties. ]

[Relationships generated by common interests: profit ties. ]

[Relationships generated by common interests: interest ties. ]

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"Interesting. ”

In the dimension of Emperor Chengzu of the Ming Dynasty, Zhu Di felt that the summary of the relationship between people in later generations was quite comprehensive.

This so-called "fate" basically summarizes the relationship in all aspects.

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[Looking back at the family affection of the big family in the ancient agricultural society, you will find that the buffs are stacked up directly.]

[The core of the family is blood and marriage, which is easy to understand.]

[Then, in ancient times, transportation was blocked and the population flow was small. Basically, people lived where they were born, so there was also geography.]

[ In the countryside, every household works by farming, herding cattle or fishing, so there is karma. 】

[In addition, productivity was low in ancient times, and small families had very poor risk resistance. Once a disaster occurred, they needed to help each other to survive safely. One more relative with a good relationship meant one more chance of survival, so there was also karma. 】

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Hearing this.

Many ancient people in all dynasties nodded.

The description of the first paragraph is indeed more in line with their situation.

Especially the mutual assistance, which is extremely important in the year of disaster.

Sometimes, whether or not you can safely survive a famine year depends on whether relatives can help each other.

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[Considering that the information was blocked at that time, everyone had little access to things, and the cultural level was similar, with average illiteracy, their interests and hobbies, and ideas should be very similar, so interest affinity is inevitable. ]

[In other words, the old version of family affection actually gathered all the "affairs". ]

[Therefore, under normal circumstances, the relationship is very strong, and members of the extended family will also maintain close contact. ]

[The embarrassment and comparisons we talked about earlier must have existed in ancient versions. ]

[It's just that they were covered up under a strong relationship, and everyone's tolerance was relatively high. ]

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"Is that so?"

Many ancient people in the past dynasties pondered in their hearts.

According to these statements of later generations, the so-called family relationship is actually not simple.

Instead, it is mixed with real interests.

And it is precisely because of the interweaving of various real interests that their family relationship has become strong.

This has had a great impact on the concepts of many ancient people.

They thought that the close relationship between relatives came from blood ties, but they didn't expect that there were so many details.

At the same time.

On the other hand.

Some ancient people can understand it very well.

They corresponded to their real lives and easily found that it was indeed the case.

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[But with the development of society, relatives have long been greatly revised. ]

[The arrival of urbanization and the improvement of transportation conditions have made population migration more and more frequent. ]

[Members of a large family may be scattered all over the world due to work and study, instead of staying in their hometown for a lifetime as before. 】

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Thinking of the extremely convenient transportation in later generations, those amazing transportation tools such as airplanes and high-speed trains that can make people travel thousands of miles in a day.

Many ancient people in all dynasties expressed deep envy.

They really want to experience the feeling of riding airplanes and high-speed trains, and they also want to travel thousands of miles in a day and see different scenery all over the world.

It's a pity.

They were in ancient times and didn't have these opportunities.

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[Job positions are also becoming more and more diversified, no longer limited to farming. ]

[According to the report of the Food and Agriculture Organization of the United Nations, only 860 million of the world's 7.6 billion people are still engaged in agricultural work. ]

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"So few?"

Many ancient people in all dynasties were shocked.

After being shocked.

Some ancient people quickly thought of the terrifying grain production in later generations, and suddenly felt that they could understand (Qian Wang Zhao)

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[After living a good life with a high-paying job, I am no longer so dependent on relatives for support. 】

[In addition, as the social security system becomes more and more complete, people no longer have to rely on relatives for emergency help, and the independence of small families is getting stronger and stronger. ]

[Therefore, in the process of social progress, family affection has been weakened overall. ]

[Nowadays, in many large families, the connotation of family affection is only blood relationship, and other "ties" have faded. ]

[Therefore, the alienation of family affection is inevitable, and the reduction of tolerance is also inevitable. It is not that young people have problems. ]

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Many ancient people in the past dynasties were silent.

They felt that such a description was a bit too naked to measure family affection from the perspective of practical interests.

For a while, they found it a bit difficult to accept.

This is not surprising.

In the traditional cultural concepts of ancient China, people do not like to put practical interest relationships on the table.

There is always a need to put on a nice outer layer.

For example, there are obviously many interests involved in the relationship between relatives, but few people will expose this.

Instead, they only talk about blood ties.

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[This big pot is put on the heads of young people, mainly because our Dragon Country has changed too fast in the past few decades of turbulent times. ]

[In 1950, 88.8% of the population in the country lived in rural areas, and most grandparents grew up in large families and established traditional family values. ]

[When my parents were born, the economic conditions were still relatively difficult, and there were many brothers and sisters, and even more cousins, and they still relied on the large family, so the family values ​​only changed partially. ]

[By the time of the 80s, 90s, and 00s, the overall economic conditions have improved, the education level has also increased, and the concept has changed accordingly. ]

…Toilet…

See here.

Many ancient people in the past dynasties had the classic saying in their minds:

"The economic base determines the superstructure!"

At the same time.

They also understood the previous statistical results of the contact between people of different age groups and their relatives. .