Fantasy world

""Important" is a way of saying that a man in the countryside formally applies for marriage to a woman. Because at that time, the marriage of young men and women in the countryside had basically not reached the state of autonomy, and it was still dominated by the parents. Therefore, at that time, the country people There is no such thing as a marriage proposal. The man's family sends people to the woman's house to find her parents to ask for someone. If the man comes to ask for someone, and the woman can't give a good reason, she has to agree to the person. Now, Lingzi I'm anxious. She is still twenty this year. How could she think of marrying herself off so early? According to the policy and trend of"late marriage and late childbearing" at that time, it is indeed a little early for Lingzi's husband's family to start"recruiting" people now. Point. But they didn’t say that they would"get someone" right away. In fact, everyone knew it very well, and they were so eager to"get someone". It was just to tie up the marriage as soon as possible to prevent unintended consequences.

Lingzi was originally very interested in this marriage. She is not very satisfied with the marriage, and now she wants to settle the matter early, but she will never agree. She has no way to make a quarrel with the man's family, so she can only quarrel with her parents. She is determined not to marry if she wants to die.

According to the local customs here, the man If the family comes to ask for someone at the beginning of the year, the girl’s family can shirk the blame, but it has to come to a conclusion. In fact, in those days, the girl’s family could delay it for a year or so, because when girls reach this age, they basically He is the main labor force in the family and can earn work points. If he gets married, he will become the main labor force in the family.

Seeing that Lingzi's attitude was so determined, Lingzi's parents had no choice but to find some reasons to frustrate the man. For this kind of Men generally don’t dare to go too far when it comes to matters involving important people. The specific work mainly depends on the matchmaker to mediate in the middle.

After the Lingzi family sent the man away, the next time was for the matchmaker to come to the house every three days and pester Lingzi’s father all day long. Mom, she also had to keep working for Lingzi, which made Lingzi's family uneasy.

Lingzi was tired of being pestered by the matchmaker, so Lingzi clamored to break off the engagement. Now, both the matchmaker and her parents were frightened. At that time, although children's marriages were still based on the parents' orders and the words of matchmakers, it was a new society after all, and young people would really make trouble. Parents and matchmakers were not absolutely unreasonable. In this way, Lingzi at least escaped this Year.

Lingzi is so determined not to get married. In fact, she herself is very confused and conflicted. She knows very well that in the countryside, it is more difficult for a girl to propose to break off the engagement. First of all, the woman must If the engagement is broken off, the man will come to claim compensation. If the marriage is calculated from the date of the baby's marriage, and the man randomly calculates a price, it will be beyond the woman's ability to bear. Therefore, in those days, young men and women in the countryside would say that they broke off the engagement and regretted the marriage. , unless the man brings it up on his own initiative. That’s not a big problem. The success rate of the woman’s proposal is almost zero. If you can’t retreat or destroy it, you can only drag it out. Lingzi has probably made up his mind to drag it on.

Although she and I have Although she had such intimacy, I knew very well in her heart that there was no possibility of us talking about marriage. The most critical issue now is that in her intimacy with me, she inadvertently aroused the deep feelings in her heart. The longing and pursuit of love. Almost no one today can understand how sad and pitiful their life was for a girl living in the countryside in that era. Their emotions were almost squeezed Completely numb; there is no room for their individuality and freedom. I still remember that Lingzi excitedly compared them to the cats and dogs at home and the animals in the team. In fact, this metaphor was really not too much for girls at that time. Ever since they were little, they have been forced to do whatever they have to do. But what have they been thinking since childhood? What do they like and dislike? What is needed and what is not needed? But few people care, and few can understand and be satisfied.

My arrival allowed them to see a glimmer of outside light in this remote village. They were exposed to some new things from me and felt a little bit of new life. As a result, they are conflicted, hesitant, and struggling deep in their hearts. There were too many ropes tied up on their bodies and they were too tight, and they had no ability to break free.

Ever since I had been so close to several of these girls, I often still cursed and despised my shamelessness. However, I also really felt that these girls truly relied on me. They are more tolerant and generous to me than I am to myself. Almost none of them ever blamed or hated my extravagance. All of their requests for me were so pitiful and tragic.

When I face so many lovely and pitiful girls in the bay, I am always more sad than happy. They all make me feel distressed and frightened. I feel sorry for them, just like holding a delicate flower in my hand. I want to hold it in my hand, hold it in my arms, and hide it in my heart. But that would crush it into pieces at the same time. Destroy it.